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49 | From Chronic Stress & Survival Mode to Self-Trust & Subconscious Healing - with Ashlea Dillard - Part 2

In Part 2 of this conversation with Ashlea Dillard, firefighter-paramedic turned Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Clinical & Transpersonal Hypnotherapist, we move from understanding stress and survival mode into what healing actually looks like.
 
Ashlea shares how people-pleasing often develops as a coping strategy, why so many women struggle to prioritize themselves without guilt, and what it truly means to advocate for your own needs. We also explore the role of the subconscious mind in shaping beliefs and behaviors, and how hypnotherapy can help create meaningful, lasting shifts.
 
This episode is about permission — permission to take up space, to listen to your inner voice, and to choose yourself without apology.
 
In Part 2 We Discuss:
 
🩵 Destigmatizing "showing up for yourself”
🩵 The subconscious mind and how belief patterns are formed
🩵 How hypnotherapy supports emotional healing and behavioral change
🩵 What sensitivity as a strength looks like in day-to-day life
Connect with Ashlea Dillard
Sit Around the Fire Podcast
sitaroundthefire.org
 
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Ready to begin the journey of giving yourself permission? 
➡️ Let’s discover what’s getting in the way and create a plan that feels right for you. Message me at info@allyssya.coach.

48 | From Chronic Stress & Survival Mode to Self-Trust & Subconscious Healing - with Ashlea Dillard - Part 1

What happens when a highly sensitive woman builds a career in one of the most high-stress, male-dominated professions and begins to realize her body is paying the price?
In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, I’m joined by Ashlea Dillard, firefighter-paramedic turned Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Clinical & Transpersonal Hypnotherapist. We explore what it was like for her to navigate emotional depth in a culture that often rewards emotional suppression, and how years of emergency response impacted her nervous system, energy, and hormones.
This episode dives into the physiological side of sensitivity and why chronic stress can leave women exhausted, disconnected from rest, and questioning their capacity. Ashlea shares powerful stories from her time on the job, including moments where her sensitivity became her greatest strength rather than something to hide.
If you’ve ever felt “too emotional,” chronically tired, or stuck in survival mode, this conversation will help you understand what’s happening beneath the surface.
In Part 1 We Discuss:
🩵 Being a highly sensitive woman in a male-dominated profession
🩵 Chronic stress and survival mode
🩵 Emotional suppression and the enormous physical energy it requires
🩵 Early warning signs your body is asking for change
Stay Tuned for Part 2
In the second half of this conversation, we explore people-pleasing, self-advocacy, and how hypnotherapy works with the subconscious mind to create lasting change.
 
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Facebook: Life Coaching with Allyssya or Instagram: @lifecoach_allyssya
 
Ready to begin your journey of self-trust? 
➡️ Let’s discover what’s getting in the way and create a plan that feels right for you. Message me at info@allyssya.coach.

47 | Letting Go of Goals That Aren’t Yours

Feeling frustrated with yourself for not wanting what you’re “supposed” to want leaves you feeling drained and unsure of yourself. Recently, I had a moment that stopped me in my tracks: realizing a fitness goal I was pushing myself toward wasn’t actually my goal, it was a suggestion from a fitness app that I quietly adopted and then judged myself for not meeting.
 
This pattern may feel familiar. As Highly Sensitive Women, we are deeply attuned to expectations, praise, and unspoken standards, and over time it can pull us out of connection with what we genuinely want and leave us seeking external reassurance instead of trusting ourselves.
 
You’ll walk away with insights on:
 
🩵 Why highly sensitive women often take on goals that aren’t theirs
🩵 Signs a goal may be rooted in expectation rather than desire
🩵 Gentle questions to help you tell the difference
🩵 What to do when you can’t tell what you want, yet
🩵 How self-assurance helps you move forward
 
This conversation isn’t about doing less or giving up, it’s about choosing differently. Choosing from clarity instead of pressure. From self-trust instead of “shoulds.”
 
✨ Free Coaching Invitation
If you’re realizing how often you’ve carried goals that weren’t yours and you’re ready for support with clarity, follow-through, or both, I’m offering 4 free coaching sessions to 7 new clients.
 
These sessions are a space to:
 
Untangle external expectations
Reconnect with what actually matters to you
Learn how to move forward in a way that feels steady, supportive, and self-led
 
You can learn more by sending a message to info@allyssya.coach. 
 
You don’t need better goals.
You need permission to choose.

46 | Less Friction, More Flow: Listening to Your Intuition in Money and in Life - with Erin Gray

Many highly sensitive women carry an unspoken tension around money - feelings of overwhelm, guilt, or inner conflict that don’t seem to respond to traditional financial advice.
I’m joined by Erin Gray, host of the Your Money, Your Rules podcast, for a deep and compassionate conversation about sensitivity, intuition, and money. Erin shares her personal journey of reclaiming her sensitivity as a strength, how it shapes the way she makes financial decisions, and why highly sensitive women often need a very different approach to money than what we’ve been taught.
We explore how guilt, conditioning, and internalized “shoulds” can quietly disconnect us from our intuition, why small, consistent steps are essential for building self-trust, and how honoring your nervous system can profoundly shift your relationship with money.
This conversation is an invitation to slow down, tune inward, and begin making financial decisions with less friction and greater alignment.
Together, we reflect on:
✨ How honoring intuition and nervous system regulation support better money choices
✨ Your money story through language, beliefs, and curiosity
✨ Why imagination and feeling matter just as much as strategy
✨ Reframing sensitivity as a financial and energetic advantage
Connect with Erin:
Listen to Erin’s podcast: Your Money, Your Rules
Want to go deeper?
Learn more about coaching with me and take advantage of 4 free sessions by sending a message to info@allyssya.coach.

45 | Imperfect Still Counts: Escaping All-or-Nothing Thinking

If you’ve ever thought, "If I can’t do it the right way, I won’t do it at all," this episode is for you.
Today, I’m unpacking how all-or-nothing thinking quietly keeps us stuck — not because we don’t care, but because we care so much that anything less than ideal feels like failure.
I share a recent experience at the gym where my workout didn’t look impressive on paper (no sweat, barely elevated heart rate, only twenty minutes from the moment I walked in the door until I walked out) yet ended up being one of the most important workouts I’ve done recently. Not because of what it did for my body, but because of what it did for my relationship with myself.
This episode invites you to consider:
🩵 Why all-or-nothing thinking feels justified (and even responsible)
🩵 How unrealistic expectations stall momentum in personal habits
🩵 The way rigid standards spill over into our relationships with others
🩵 Why keeping small promises builds more trust than doing things “right”
🩵 How redefining what counts can create real, sustainable change
I also share a few gentle experiments you can try this week to help you stay engaged even when things don’t look the way you hoped they would.
Because real change happens when we keep showing up, even imperfectly.
If you’re ready to start making progress through continued presence, I’m offering 4 free sessions for 7 new clients through the end of January 2026. Email info@allyssya.coach to schedule a complimentary consultation.

44 | Stuck, Overwhelmed, or Drained? Your Home May Be Part of the Story - with Lisa Morton

Your home is more than a place you return to at the end of the day. It’s an energetic partner in your well-being.
In this episode, I sit down with Lisa Morton to explore how our spaces impact our nervous systems, emotions, and ability to move forward in life.
Lisa shares her personal journey as a highly sensitive woman, how she intuitively used her bedroom to self-soothe as a child, and how those early instincts eventually shaped her life’s work. We discuss Feng Shui, energetic space clearing, clutter, stagnation, and why small shifts, not massive overhauls, can create profound change.
This episode is a gentle invitation to reconnect with your home as a source of safety, support, and healing.
This conversation offers insight into:
The powerful connection between your home, your nervous system, and your emotional well-being
How feeling stuck or depleted can show up in your space and how to gently shift it
A simple, approachable understanding of Feng Shui and energetic space clearing
Why clutter holds emotional and energetic weight, not just physical objects
How small, loving actions in your home can ripple outward and support real change
Lisa Morton is a designer, Feng Shui master teacher, Reiki master, and the creator of the Intuitive Home Method. For more than 20 years, she’s helped clients around the world transform homes, businesses, and even luxury private aircraft interiors. She’s the host of the Feng Shui Living podcast and author of Aligned At Home.
Connect with Lisa:
Website: purelivingwithlisamorton.com
Instagram: @purelivingwithlisaaorton
Podcast: Feng Shui Living
Book: Aligned At Home
If you’re ready to start creating ripples in your life, I’m offering 4 free sessions for 7 new clients through the end of January 2026. Email info@allyssya.coach to schedule a complimentary consultation.

43 | New Year, Same You: Choose Self-Acceptance and Let Change Follow

A new year often arrives with an unspoken message: be better, do more, change faster. For highly sensitive women, that pressure can feel especially heavy.
I am offering a different invitation.
Instead of trying to reinvent yourself, I explore what becomes possible when you choose self-acceptance and allow change to follow naturally.
Inspired by the French quote “I accept the great adventure of being me,” this conversation reframes self-acceptance as an active, courageous choice rather than resignation or giving up. I talk about why sensitivity isn’t the problem, how self-criticism quietly blocks change, and what shifts when you stop fighting who you are.
In this episode, I explore:
🩵 Why “new year, new you” doesn’t work, especially for sensitive women
🩵 How self-acceptance creates sustainable change without forcing or fixing
🩵 What it really means to accept the great adventure of being you
✨A Special Invitation
To support women who feel ready to practice this work in real life, I’m offering 4 free sessions for 7 new clients, available through the end of the month.
This is for you if you’re ready to stop managing yourself and start living from self-trust, integration, and acceptance. Send a message to info@allyssya.coach to schedule your complimentary consultation.

42 | Simple Isn’t Easy: When Awareness Meets Real Life

We’re often told that once we know better, we’ll do better.
But real life doesn’t work that way.
 
In this episode, I’m sharing an honest reflection on how even with awareness, tools, and experience, I overextended myself. Not because I didn’t know my limits, but because knowing something doesn’t automatically make it easy to live.
 
I explore:
 
🩵 Why awareness doesn’t instantly translate into changed behavior
🩵 The shame that creeps in when you “know what to do” and still struggle
🩵 How perfectionism often shows up as a response to that shame
🩵 Why this isn’t failure
🩵 How to gently come back into alignment without starting over
 
If you’ve ever thought, “I should be better at this by now,” this episode is a reminder that you’re not broken, you’re human.
If this conversation resonates and you’d like support practicing what you know with compassion instead of pressure, I’m offering 4 free sessions to 7 new clients through January 2026. Simply email me at info@allyssya.coach to schedule your complimentary consultation.

41 | Beyond Labels: Thriving as a Sensitive Introvert, Ambivert, or Extrovert

Introvert. Extrovert. Ambivert.
We hear these words all the time, but if you’re a highly sensitive woman, those labels often feel too small to capture your lived experience.
In today’s episode, I explore how sensitivity and social energy intersect and why so many highly sensitive people assume they’re introverts when what they could really be navigating is nervous system overstimulation.
This conversation was sparked by a recent dinner where someone casually referred to me as an introvert and it was a moment that unexpectedly brought up old stories about what “introvert” means… quiet, withdrawn, less than. So we’re pulling apart those narratives and reframing how sensitive women can understand their energy needs with more compassion and clarity.
Inside this episode, you’ll learn:
🩵 The real psychological definitions of introvert, extrovert, and ambivert🩵 The difference between being sensitive and your social energy type🩵 How accepting your sensitivity can reduce shame and social burnout🩵 How to tell whether you truly need solitude or simply nervous system regulation🩵 Practical tools for sensitive introverts, extroverts, and ambiverts
This episode is for you if you’ve ever:
✨ Felt misunderstood by labels
✨ Canceled plans out of overwhelm (and then regretted it)
✨ Thought, “Why can’t I handle social situations like everyone else?”
✨ Wanted both deep rest and meaningful connection
If you’re ready to stop navigating your sensitivity alone, I have a gentle offering for you.
I’m gifting four free coaching sessions to seven new clients through the end of January 2026. It is a space to help you understand your nervous system, your social energy rhythm, and how to build a life that honors your sensitivity instead of fighting it.
To schedule a complimentary consultation, simply email info@allyssya.coach.

40 | Nervous System Healing & the Journey Back to Self

What does it mean to lose yourself… and then find your way home again?
 
In this deeply personal birthday episode, I’m celebrating turning 47 while honoring the layered emotions this milestone brings. My grandmother passed away at this same age, and reaching it has stirred a combination of grief, purpose, and a sense of arrival.
 
I also share the deeply personal reality that ten years ago, I spent my birthday in a mental health treatment facility. At the time, I’d lost touch with my body, my intuition, and my sense of self. I was merely existing, mistrusting myself, and unknowingly navigating a deeply dysregulated nervous system.
 
What I didn’t understand then is that my anxiety and depression were messages from a nervous system begging to be heard.
 
Over the last decade, the most transformative relationship I’ve built has been the one with myself and my nervous system. Learning how to be present with my emotions, honor my sensitivity, and keep promises to myself rebuilt trust from the inside out. And regulation didn’t just bring peace, it opened the door to dreaming again.
 
For a long time, imagination felt impossible because survival doesn’t leave room for vision. But as safety returned to my body, I began dreaming of a life that fits me.
 
At 47, I feel more alive than ever. I laugh daily, dance in my living room, ask for what I want and need, and face challenges with a grounded optimism I once thought was out of reach. This last decade has been a journey back to myself, to who I always was beneath the layers of survival and self-abandonment.
 
This episode is a gentle reminder that healing doesn’t happen in giant leaps. It unfolds through small, embodied choices, listening to your nervous system, and taking the next best action toward authenticity.
 
🩵 My Birthday Gift to You
 
Because I’m a big fan of gifting experiences, to celebrate this birthday, I’m gifting 4 free coaching sessions to 7 new clients, available through the end of January 2026.
 
If something in today’s story resonates with you and you’re ready to build self-trust and a life that feels like home, I would love to walk alongside you.
Contact me now at info@allyssya.coach to schedule your complimentary consultation.